as a linguist....I'm fascinated by language. (wink)
or....I'm fascinated by language....and so I pursued linguistics....and research languages..... sometimes, when people don't know what linguistics is...they think that you are listening to them and judging their grammar.
Linguists are descriptivists....not prescriptivists....and so.....we are listening to you speak....and interested in all the ways you speak....your speech 'errors' are fascinating as they contrast against the canonical...
we do not judge....we describe.
language...communication....messages....
can be found in everything.
the tone of a loved one....conveys what they are trying to say....rising in a wave above the actual words they are saying...
body language, posture....adds to the message....
the words selected...contribute to a deeper meaning....revealing the thoughts and feelings of the speaker....
certain word choices elude to opinions and beliefs....that aren't explicitly presented in the message...
all of these things....
clothing...the painting above, fonts, emojis, CAPS, lowercase...... all communicates messages....
everything linguistic and paralinguistic in nature....
leads to communication...... and speaks to the limbic system.
It contributes....it aids in giving us the ability to share emotional states.....
it is pretty amazing, the processing that happens when someone speaks to you. Evaluating the words, the non-verbals, the tone of the voice, voice quality, the word choices, the posture of speaker, pragmatics....the entire interaction being evaluated and processed...as well as preparing a response, concealing and hiding, or being open and intimate, giving more gas or preparing to break....trying to figure out the best way to say something.....adhering to Grice's maxims, or choosing to violate them...
all of these things... happen, almost simultaneously.....and in some instances of conversations between
closely entangled people, it does happens simultaneously...there is no ping-pong play.....both serve and both receive at the same time.
messages and communication....we continually navigate the rules of small talk and politeness all day long....
it can be exhausting.
and me.....I can only speak for me....but.....
I feel words. I feel messages....as if I put on a blindfold and I have an object in my hand....
some people feel like just like a sea urchin....the way they speak...the way they choose their words...prickly....and you want to put it down...and walk away.
some people feel like smooth stones...that you turn over and over in your hands....and never get bored just touching and feeling their words.
some people's words pour over you like a rush of water, cool and refreshing stream....
some people's words are confusing and harsh, like a pile of thumb tacks...constant combination of benign and malign...surprise pokes.
some people.....are loving....their soul oozes love....the words they choose are love....they project love.....you feel it....it feels good....
and some people are fear....fear based words....fear based messages.....interacting with them feels...like really uncomfortable shoes that always gives you blisters....and you'd rather go barefoot.
and some people....craft their words...taking the time to represent their soul properly....or maybe they don't necessarily have to take their time....because their honesty is so natural....they speak as they feel they are transparent...there is no fear...no contradicting terms....they are exactly who they are....they are free.
they feel like feathers blowing in the wind. they feel like magic....an electrical energy of pure love.
the language and communication surges from the pure soul pouring out pure love....there is no guessing nor
negotiating layers...of walls and barriers and evaluating contradicting language and action....
all is aligned.
and it feels like truth.
peace and love and the power of language....use it for good.
