love is everything.

so many people. So many lives.  so many relationships. so hard to watch when relationships dissolve and the people just keep hanging on to it...because they don't know where to go.  It's like....

there is a video clip I saw of a toddler screaming and crying- in a panic, clutching on to a parent because he's in the water...thinking it's deep and he can't swim.

and they tell him....he can stand...

and he does.

You can stand.  You just don't even realize it.  You're too busy in a panic and crying about doomsday.

I think that's why people have a hard time with optimism.  Well.  for many reasons...Optimism is...it seems like it's out of control.  If you think about the worst thing...you get to use your energy on thinking and over thinking about what will happen, could happen.  that gives your brain a big thing to do.  What if you switched gears to optimism...after a life of worst case scenario thinking?  what the fuck does that do to you?  It's like- believing in unicorns!   It must be....it must be like....thinking elves are real (they are, they steal my keys all the time).
But seriously...

Switch gears...and what does your mind do with optimism?  It has to believe....believe in What???  something that you can't even see yet???!!!  that's just crazy. why would someone do that?

Because....how can you believe or entertain worst case scenarios that aren't even real?  chances are they won't even happen?  Aren't you doing the exact same thing?  Only- the thing is- ....fear motivates the pessimist.

ahhhhh!  But to believe in something...you want to happen...that you would love to happen....the thing that would make you happy....
how is that crazy?   Chances are....if you believe it to happen....it has a much better chance at happening.

Chances are....that....if you think you can't.... you just didn't.  It all boils down to love.

If you love....and see the promise in it...and the opportunities in it....you are helping make that happen.

if you fear...and worry....you just made that more and more concrete....you created all your constricting story lines.  Go home...you miserable miserable sad person. Ha! I'm kidding...but seriously....don't do that!  Don't Fear....do not worry.

What does that have to do with relationships and love?

Everything.  Some relationships are just doomed because both people over time...kill them.  Then they hold on to them for the same reasons they killed them....fear.

Love is expansion....love is potential...love is optimism.  Love is believing...

But it is hard....it is hard to start believing in good things.  You have to retrain your brain that you....can actually stand up...and that you aren't going to drown.  Once you get a few under your belt...it gets easier.

Once you see what a powerful....beautiful....optimistic creator....you are.....you actually can.

Sometimes I forget, after seeing so many unicorns walking around...that other people can't see them...or believe in them....

life is magical....make it so.

love is everything.